Tasha's Musings About. . . Loneliness

The thing about loneliness that is deceiving to me, is the name. I mean just look at the word, the root of it is the word "Lone," which signifies that loneliness comes about because you are alone. Which if you're reading this now you're probably thinking obviously, that is the point is it not? But this is not always the case.

Let me put it to you this way, have you ever been at a party or in school, work or University surrounded by people, or even friends whom you love and still felt unequivocally and absolutely alone? You're not physically alone, you're surrounded by people so how could you possibly be lonely? But you very easily can! Now I am no expert in human psyche or psychology but I know that it is so easy to feel alone in today's society, to know that there are people who love and care for you, whom are only a message away, but to not be able to send that message as a sense of loneliness so strong takes place that you feel like there is no one in the world who could possibly understand you...That you and you alone are the only one on this whole planet who could possibly understand how you are feeling. This is loneliness!


Sometimes it's worst that this, sometimes you simply do not know why you feel lonely or alone...You just, do!


There is a line from the movie "A Cinderella Story," which I feel truly sums up what I am trying to say in the usual complex Tasha way, but it is basically this "I can be surrounded by a sea of people and still feel all alone,"

So where I'm going with this whole thing is that you do not have to be physically alone to feel lonely. It's perfectly normal to feel alone sometimes. It's perfectly normal to feel like you are the only person in the whole world who understands you, and maybe you are but that doesn't mean you shouldn't let people try to!

Here's what I've learned in my short time on this Earth,life and opportunities will not come to you, you must seize them! If you feel like you are alone please remember there are millions of people on this beautiful planet all of whom have or will feel alone and lonely at some point in their lives, you are not alone. I'm not alone!

As horrible as the feeling is, it is inevitable! (Unfortunately) But just remember in life there will be good times and bad times, happy and sad times and sometimes you will feel like the loneliest person in world, but hang in there kid you're never, ever alone!

And so to finish and to show it's not all doom and gloom, I want to leave you with one more quote from Babe Ruth that's also used in "A Cinderella Story,"

Thank you so much for reading! ♥ Until next time my lovelies stay safe, enjoy life and remember you are not alone,


Tasha

Tasha's Musings About . . . Life?

Ok so quite recently I have been seriously pondering the meaning of life, not just the physical living/breathing aspect of life, but also what it actually means to be alive. What it means to exist as a solitary human being on this planet which is a small one in a vast universe of planets. Is there a purpose to human existence? Does fate exist or are our lives up to chance and the decisions we make? The truth is I do not have answers for these questions and I could not possibly begin to describe what has led me to the point where I have been literally driving myself insane in what can only be described as one huge Existential Crisis where I'm not sleeping and barely eating.

What on earth is an Existential Crisis? I here you ask..
Well basically an Existential Crisis can be a moment or indeed a prolonged period of time where you question the very essence, fibre and foundations of your being! Who are you? What are you doing with your life? Where are you going? Why are you here? Are you truly happy? Is there a reason for human existence? What is the meaning of life? And the truth is you will drive yourself insane. We as humans just simply do not have the answers to these questions. There is no guide book to human existence, no set of rules that if you follow meticulously will lead you to inevitable happiness.


At some point or other in your life you will encounter these questions, maybe not to the full extend of an Existential Crisis but the thoughts will certainly cross your mind. You will question both yourself and the meaning of life countless times throughout your existence, and as stated before there are no answers and no reassurance to distract from that fact that in life these questions are inevitable.

So what then can we do when we get these doubts and feelings?
We struggle on. If there is one thing I am certain of it is the resilience of human beings and human nature. If you are truly unhappy then maybe it's time to make that change you've always dreamed. Without sounding cliched or feeding into the whole "YOLO," culture, you do only live once so we've got to make the best of the time we've got here for the short time we are here and that means soldiering on and not dwelling on these feelings for too long :)


If you have read this, well thank you so much and thank you kindly for taking the time ♥. If you yourself have gone trough or are experiencing an Existential Crisis, I feel your pain and understand how frustrating it is to literally ponder the point of existence and to try and remove all this doubt and uncertainty in your mind, one thing is for sure though..things can only get better! So hang in there :)

Until Next Time Lovlies,

Tasha.